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“You’re Getting Married?!”



So lately it has been a lot about “You’re Getting Married?!”

Well yes. I am getting married soon. No I am not taking a plunge or whatever. I am just getting married. 

Obviously, I still don’t know much about “being married” since I am just about to get there. But there are a few things I realized over the last few months and this space works for me.

There was an invitation that went viral on social media lately that portrayed a marriage as the most horrific thing to do. And then I just got thinking. 

The sense of humour has for long compared a wedding to the end of everything. Phrases like “That’s it man”, “You’re screwed”, “End of freedom” and the like. Of course, no denials! I have been part of such conversations myself. But pondering over it lately, I realized that involuntarily these jokes have contributed in developing a kind resistance to the whole idea in most of our minds. We live in an era where commitment and trust is already the biggest fear and then when we have this kind of sense of humour - the mess just gets messier!

I’ve been all set to get married and loving life with my fiance. But still there were certain mornings I woke up thinking “How could I be the first one in my batch to get hitched?” In my head, it was a all chaos! 

Then I happened to have this conversation with a friend of mine. I was just telling her about how I was taking in the fact and embracing it. She was surprised. She told me – “Marriage is not such a scary thing for you to be so worried. It is actually awesome that you have someone who is going to be your constant and to share that entire emotional luggage. This is just going to help you clear the rut and grow.” That was one of the first times I heard someone say that to me about me getting married instead of passing some usual joke or apparently funny statement. (Barring my sister and folks of course!) 

There are such moments when you hear it from the people who you’d least expect it from and then you realize that you’re not just the one with similar opinions. Today my life surely looks a whole lot different from how I thought it would be but that doesn’t matter since this version by far looks fab to me. 

None of us really are right for anyone else. And sure a whole lot of things will change. But these changes happen in our life only if we choose to make them.

I always believed that the commitment to love your life has to be greater than your desire to love your life. 

After all, most of us love the Fall season. And that only exists because things change.

Cheers!

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