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Aaraam se

When I graduated, I was all set to pursue masters and do all the stuff that I was 'supposed' to. A year later, somewhere I felt I was not sure if I wanted to. And I began enjoying all the little big things I was up to. And then on it has been multiple things I engage myself in everyday which began to feel fulfilling. But there are those days where I am sent into this state of shock thinking about the questions I'm asked. So what's your plan? ( Earlier it was about my further studies alone but now it is also about my reproduction chart) 

Am I not running this race fast enough?

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"C'mon! Run faster dear! Yes you can."

"Work a little more and you're almost there. You can crack this test!"

"Deadline is round the corner. Get it done as soon as you can!"

We've all heard things similar to these at various points. Rather this almost just everything we've been hearing - the whole phenomenon of increasing speed, timely reminders about how we're not up in the race. In fact we've been taught from a very young age on how we must catch up and get there. And most of us do live as if that's exactly how this journey needs to be. No rest. No sense of completion. Ever. 

If that's how the system was supposed to be, then why are so many of us unhappy and confused? 

Lately, every time I am having an argument with myself in my head or a general conversation about life with anybody, I've been realizing that the root cause to most of our troubles and confusion is the 'speed'. 

Let's keep 'Life' aside. What about a website not loading in spite of using your Jio connection? What about the number of times we need to swipe our phones to check all kinds of updates? What about the instant poha that works better for breakfast? 

And with 'Life'. So how many clubs did you get in at college? Aren't you looking for a better placement? You think it is okie to get married that late? (Let's not even get into 'no marriage' category) You better have your baby before 30. ( That's not even a question. It is almost a command. And again let's not touch the 'no baby' group)

This life. Full of activity. Packed with everything you can think of and maximizing the time by doing more than everything. ( Don't even know if that sentence actually makes sense.) 

I feel that the answer most of us are looking for and longing to hear is SLOW DOWN. But unfortunately nobody teaches us how to. And nobody gives this even as an option. 

Because the minute we decide to slow down - you feel the air you are breathing, things fall into perspective and you have enough time to enjoy your tea or coffee. 

After all "Hear the music before the song is over. "

I'm thinking I should maybe go live in Spain or any culture where they work to live as opposed to live to work. Maybe spending some time in a slow culture will help. Or maybe we could start by walking instead of running. 

Trust in the universe. Notice all the good around you though the time we live in is making it hard. Still there is enough to notice. 

Let's do it aaraam se.
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