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the Line

“We were a thing, you know. It is almost like we wake up together and do all our stuff in sync. We also enjoy similar activities and styles. But somehow she was not okay with me being around with….”

“We are so connected and I used to share everything with them. It never felt like they were so elder to me. It was more of a buddy vibe than grandparent vibe. But then…” 

“Last time I did that work schedule since she wasn’t there right. Now apparently I need to take up that responsibility completely!” 

“We both were the best of friends. Like literally! For a really long time, it was just that and then with all that happened later and for the mess it became – wish I could…” 

“How can we say no nah? It is okay. We’ll manage somehow.” Every person I talk to seems to be having something going on along these lines on a personal and professional level. Of course – my life is full of it too. 

Really – these kinds of issues that each of us encounter on a daily basis needs to have its own hot air balloon flying in the sky advertising its purpose. 

So that ‘line’ is gaining popularity naturally and its relevance cannot be denied.

The way to people’s heart at many times take you far away from yourself. So learning to do it without having it to lose you to the process is mindfulness – yeah that just sounds fancy! It is hard work – truckloads of patience and constant conditioning of the mind.

This line is so tricky because you need to draw it but we need to rightly decide whether to use a 2H or a 2B pencil to do it. As much as boundaries help in setting limits and defines the acceptable behavior around you, being too structured can impose too many limits and reduce happiness.

I guess it is all in the context – identifying what boundaries you have and then how they are applied in the different contexts and situations you find yourself in.

And what I know is that boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.
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